KUALA LUMPUR: One of the experiences Dr. Siti Hajar Md Hanif has encountered is people mistaking her mother-in-law, M. Thaivanai, for her children's nanny, as many were unaware of the ties between the two.
However, this changed after Dr. Siti Hajar shared their story and close bond on social media.
Many were in awe of the 'closeness' between Dr. Siti Hajar and Thaivanai, despite their differences in race and religion.
"Early in our marriage, many people, including staff, did not realise that my mother-in-law was not Malay.
"Now, it's not just the staff or acquaintances, many more people recognise my mother-in-law as I frequently post content about my life with her.
"You could say that people often greet us when I'm out walking or eating with my mother-in-law," she said.
Siti Hajar expressed her gratitude that Thaivanai treats her like her own daughter, even taking on the task of caring for her during her confinement period.
"The love my parents-in-law have for me transcends boundaries.
"They have taught me the meaning of tolerance and compromise by striving to create a comfortable environment for my small Muslim family.
"Imagine, if they want to enjoy their favourite foods, they are willing to go out to eat.
"I have no doubts about consuming the food prepared at home because my parents-in-law ensure that the ingredients are halal," she said.
She added that since marrying her husband, Iskandar Chai Yoong Sang, her life has changed completely.
"I feel fortunate to have my father-in-law because he has taught me the Hakka language.
"The Hakka community is proud of their culture, and they use the language frequently in daily conversations.
"This motivated me to learn my father-in-law's mother tongue. I even encourage my children to learn it so they can communicate more easily with their grandfather.
"I took the initiative to learn simple phrases in the language. This has been very helpful for me when dealing with Hakka Chinese patients," she said.
Siti Hajar added that as long as these cultural practices do not conflict with Islamic teachings, she continues them with her children.
"I respect my in-laws' culture and customs. Whenever there's a celebration, I dress my children in Cheongsam and their traditional attire.
"I want my children to know and understand their roots without any doubts.
"They are being raised in a harmonious, multi-racial family with strong values of tolerance," she said.